i think you can never be fully prepared to be a parent. it is a role that requires on the job training and will entail a set of job skills that will vary from child to child. every little person that enters into your family will require different things than any other little person. yet we do our best to learn and plan and, if we are smart, we brace ourselves for the very real fact that we may have to throw it all out the window and just roll with the punches while we regroup and gather a whole new set of information.
that's kinda where i'm at on our road to fostering/adopting.
last night was week 8 of 10 in our foster/adoption classes. once we finish classes, the state will have 30 days to approve us and then we will start getting phone calls.
i'm gathering information, reading books, asking a million questions in class and of others i know who have been down this path before us. i'm walking myself through possible situations and trying to create a plan of attack. and i'm trying to prepare myself for the unknown. a daunting and rather intimidating thought.
i'm also preparing our family. Nick and i have begun to talk with the boys about the idea of other children staying with us, and possible becoming a part of our family forever. we mention that they will have to share their toys, maybe their room. they might have new seats at the table or places in the car. and we will have to have extra patience with little ones who don't know the rules or don't understand words.
i'm also trying to prepare our home for these special little ones. all the meds and cleaners are moving to a cabinet with a keyed lock. there is some painting i would like to get done in the bedrooms. i have outlet covers for through out the house and i'm thinking of doing a few cabinet locks for places i really don't want little fingers in. i've begun collecting twin bed sheets, sorting through hand me downs to be sure we have a bit of each size (boy and girl), and just waiting for a sale on mattresses and another carseat or two.
then there is a list of little things that we will need to have on hand; toothbrushes, soaps and shampoos, diapers, socks, hairbrushes and hair ties, etc. all the small personal care items that we take for granted that these kids most likely won't come with.
if anyone see's a great sale or has some coupons they aren't going to use, let me know. ;)
we are praying for wisdom and peace as we are preparing to add to our bunch of crazies!
it feels so close and yet, as they say, so very far away.